No matter how positive and forgiving I try to be, it seems to be inevitable that negativity will always squeeze it's way into my life. I know for a fact that I'm not the only one whose life is sometimes speckled with sadness, and although occasionally I have a tendency to feel sorry for myself in those situations, I've learned that there's no time for dwelling and focusing all your energy on negative people and things.
Negativity can come in many forms; it can smuggle its way into your life disguised as "friends", bosses, teachers, it can even exist in your family members. Of course you have to realise there's a reason for this negativity attached to the people who surround you. You should be understanding and compassionate, but it's vital that you realise that there's a difference between being kind to someone and letting them walk over you.
There are a few ways you can deal with negative people. The first is to really try and understand the person's reasons for their behaviour. No one is a toxic person; the conditions in which they've grow are toxic and therefore their behaviour is too. I guarantee you would find that if you were in their position, you would end up acting exactly in exactly the same way. So the next time they try and demean you or irritate you in some way, put yourself in their mindset and be the bigger person. Don't respond with hate or anger, because you cannot fight fire with fire. Not only will this cause your life to be cleansed of negativity, but you will acquire a great skill in the process; letting go. Not because you forgive them or even because they deserve to be forgiven but because it causes you more pain holding onto the things they did.
However, unfortunately this method does not always work. It has for me on many occasions, and I urge you to try it first, but in my experience there are some people who cling onto your life no matter how much you try to ease them off. In this situations the solution is quite simple; cut them out of your life. I know this is easier said than done. Just last year I was holding onto negative people simply because I wanted lots of friends. But over this past year I've realised that having a few friends that you love being with, is infinitely more valuable than having friends who constantly tear you down. And ironically, ever since I decided to cut those negative people out, I've gained more friends, and ones who don't always make me feel self conscious or don't always twist things to be about them.
But how do you cut those people out?
Easy. Move to a different seat in the class. Unfollow them on Instagram. Unfriend them on snapchat. Talk to different people. Expand your circle. If you find yourself talking to them and you can feel their negativity begin to infiltrate your life; walk away. It's that easy.
Never forget that you own your life! You are in control! You can do whatever you want! Don't waste precious minutes on people who give nothing back to you.
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Yours sincerely x