First of all, when it comes to love, I believe that in order to find someone that you want to be with forever you should be the best version of you. It all starts with who you are. If you are in a place of need then whoever you may find, you will need them instead of truly loving them. This can leave you being nothing without them by your side. So my first tip is to understand that you are not one half searching for another, you are a whole on your own.
I also think you shouldn't go out and look for someone. it's not the best story to tell people about how you and your loved one met, "oh I was looking for a boyfriend so I went on tinder". I just want to really emphasise that I believe when you are being completely yourself, doing things you have always dreamed of then the right person will come into your life.
My next tip is let go of thinking you are alone! Stop turning every corner wondering is this person is going to be who I fall in love with. If you want to find someone spectacular you shouldn't expect to find them in the corner shop.
I also want to advise you that you are someone's dream person. Just because boys right now mightn't be for you doesn't mean someone wouldn't absolutely love to find you. If you are looking for someone truly amazing it probably won't be easy to find them, especially when you are going out looking for them. If you are going places that you love, with friends you love you will meet someone is a good match for you.
To all of the younger people reading this blog, I'll give you the advice I would have liked when I was your age. Don't stress so much. That boy or girl you're pulling your hair out over will not matter in a few years. I mean it. And please, please don't compromise your values to look cool. Do you really think you will end up with someone who makes you feel like you should sacrifice things that make you you. Being young and in love can make you do stupid things but you have to remember who you are.
This sounds so selfish but when it comes to love put your self first. NOw, don't jump down my throat, I don't mean in a relationship... I just mean that you should always prioritise your own growth and your own goals in life before settling for just anyone. Don't become so infatuated with the idea of someone that you become less productive, love should be something that helps both people to do better, create their ideal life and work harder. Love should help both people to grow. You shouldn't solely depend on someone as that's very unhealthy but you should have a friend and support system in someone that you love.
Last but never least, I want to talk about what love actually is. I really want you reading this to understand that love is universal, people fall in love with different people, people can fall in love with the same gender. What is the big deal.
Love is a beautiful thing. It is sad to see that there is such a gap in the marketing of love. To all those who can't talk to their parents about the love they may be having for a person of the same gender, who can't ask their parents or teachers simple questions about love. For those who never see same sex relationships in any magazine articles etc. Who always feel just that little bit left out. You are so, so brave. You, by just being you, have stood by and protected love in all its forms.
Love is an amazing and diverse thing and it boggles my mind that people can actually believe it has to fit under one stereotype. I will help to stand by love. In all its forms. Because love is the world's saving grace.
Wow, that is one of my favourite blogs I've ever written. NO actually it was my favourite. I really hope that you liked this blog as much as I loved writing it. As always i'm free for you to ask me any questions or come to me for any advice. Some of that advice has been written from my experience and I know that it would have helped me a lot a few years back. Thank you so very much for reading. Your friend...
Tea and a read.